the get up kids show sunday night made me realize how bands are like girls. you’ll come across thousands in your life, and a lot of them you’ll never even really hear, just pass by. maybe a few hundred you’ll have meaningful interactions with, but only a few dozen will have a real impact on your life.

i’d say the get up kids are to me today a lot like the girlfriend i had in college when i started listening to them is to me today too. something i loved fiercely at one point, and will always have a tender spot for, but something that i’ll never feel as excited about again. i’ll prefer to remember the best memories i have of them instead of expecting anything in the future to be quite as good, even though i’ll always be nice to them, think of them fondly, and consider them great in my book.

see, the get up kids and i are just friends now. i realize there are only going to be a handful of bands i ever come across that i could possibly love for the rest of my life, and although we did have an amazing relationship, it just wasn’t meant to be with us. sure, it could have worked out if the time was right, but we can’t control the when and the how, just be grateful for what we had together while we had it.

don’t get me wrong, it was really nice to see them again, the night together really just cemented what i already knew — that we’re just not the same people we used to be. but you know what, that’s okay. they were still one of the good ones; one of the ones that i shared a special part of my life with. one of the serious, enduring relationships that i have to admit helped formed who i am. for that, i’ll always have a place in my heart for them. it’s important though to realize when it’s time to move on.

besides, they’re getting fat anyway.